My mother has been in and out of the hospital for over a month now. Hasn't been keeping food down, has been losing ~5lbs a week for 4 weeks since things started getting worse. They keep her in for a few days or so then release her saying they can't find anything wrong. Step father took her to a different hospital most recently because he was tired of the same tests being performed and them not finding anything. They didn't find anything either and simply added on a few more prescriptions for symptom control and comfort and sent her on her way after a few days.

Anyways, I haven't visited her since this started and it's really not looking good at this point. She's back in the hospital now after taking a fall. She hasn't been able to really stand on her own and they're just not sure what's going on. So I'm heading up to see her tomorrow and already know I'm going to have family who tend to be very confrontational even in moments like this that will probably get in my face and berate me. I hate hospitals, spent many days in them having loved ones slowly taken away from me so I have a very hard time bringing myself to go inside one. Guess I just have to try and keep a cool head for the inevitable confrontation from my siblings. Hopefully this isn't the beginning of the end, I've had a bad feeling in my gut about this since it started.

Maybe I am a selfish asshole for avoiding visiting that environment and maybe I deserve them laying into me, I think they enjoy it anyways. Time to face it I guess.

The Evil AC  Wrote:

My mother has been in and out of the hospital for over a month now. Hasn't been keeping food down, has been losing ~5lbs a week for 4 weeks since things started getting worse. They keep her in for a few days or so then release her saying they can't find anything wrong. Step father took her to a different hospital most recently because he was tired of the same tests being performed and them not finding anything. They didn't find anything either and simply added on a few more prescriptions for symptom control and comfort and sent her on her way after a few days.

Anyways, I haven't visited her since this started and it's really not looking good at this point. She's back in the hospital now after taking a fall. She hasn't been able to really stand on her own and they're just not sure what's going on. So I'm heading up to see her tomorrow and already know I'm going to have family who tend to be very confrontational even in moments like this that will probably get in my face and berate me. I hate hospitals, spent many days in them having loved ones slowly taken away from me so I have a very hard time bringing myself to go inside one. Guess I just have to try and keep a cool head for the inevitable confrontation from my siblings. Hopefully this isn't the beginning of the end, I've had a bad feeling in my gut about this since it started.

Maybe I am a selfish asshole for avoiding visiting that environment and maybe I deserve them laying into me, I think they enjoy it anyways. Time to face it I guess.

Thats your mother man, you should set aside your ego for a minute and support your mom, show her you care.
Stop being a coward and put your mothers feelings first.

LOP isn't your blog.

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The Evil AC  Wrote:

My mother has been in and out of the hospital for over a month now. Hasn't been keeping food down, has been losing ~5lbs a week for 4 weeks since things started getting worse. They keep her in for a few days or so then release her saying they can't find anything wrong. Step father took her to a different hospital most recently because he was tired of the same tests being performed and them not finding anything. They didn't find anything either and simply added on a few more prescriptions for symptom control and comfort and sent her on her way after a few days.

Anyways, I haven't visited her since this started and it's really not looking good at this point. She's back in the hospital now after taking a fall. She hasn't been able to really stand on her own and they're just not sure what's going on. So I'm heading up to see her tomorrow and already know I'm going to have family who tend to be very confrontational even in moments like this that will probably get in my face and berate me. I hate hospitals, spent many days in them having loved ones slowly taken away from me so I have a very hard time bringing myself to go inside one. Guess I just have to try and keep a cool head for the inevitable confrontation from my siblings. Hopefully this isn't the beginning of the end, I've had a bad feeling in my gut about this since it started.

Maybe I am a selfish asshole for avoiding visiting that environment and maybe I deserve them laying into me, I think they enjoy it anyways. Time to face it I guess.

Thats your mother man, you should set aside your ego for a minute and support your mom, show her you care.
Stop being a coward and put your mothers feelings first.

It's not ego, but you're right and I am going to see her.

Hard to do given my history in hospitals.

op, i don't care for you either, you're a pathetic turd-twisting twatwaffle

Just quietly and privately explain to your mom how going to the hospital is traumatic to you and apologize to her. Tell her how much you've been thinking about her, tell her how you hope she could feel that, tell her how much you love her.

She knows you.

Try Mayo for a diagnosis.