Trying...hard...to...not...make...crude.​..and...heartless...comment! AAUUGH!!

But I thought all of us flirting on here have wives, husbands, boyfriends and girlfriends, just not at the same time of course.

As for me, my wife doesn't feel the least bit slighted with my posts on here and I'm a huge flirt, especially with one LOPer, but its probably not flirting cause the feelings are genuine!

We even have an open invite for her and a few other LOP'ers to stop by and stay a weekend when they are in the area and vice-versa.

And just this past weekend we enjoyed a day fishing and had steaks on the grill at LOPer Aalia's home.

Having 'friends' on line here isn't a problem, maybe its his home life your boyfriend needs to work on more?

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How is it over the top? When you see your partner telling other women how hot and attractive they are? It pisses me off to no end. If you accept that in a partner fine, but I don't.

Ahh so a man is not supposed to recognize the beauty in other women, even though he has a mate? You do realize that the idea of being with one woman started only about 300 years ago right? Up until then it was an all out orgy up in here..

You really should stop thinking the world revolves around you, because baby, it doesn't.. You can be replaced in the blink of a f*ckin' eye.

As can he "baby"...as can he! I don't send sexual messages to others and I don't expect my mate to either. Your argument about monogamy is irrelevant to this post.

LoP Guest  Wrote:

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Ahh so a man is not supposed to recognize the beauty in other women, even though he has a mate? You do realize that the idea of being with one woman started only about 300 years ago right? Up until then it was an all out orgy up in here..

You really should stop thinking the world revolves around you, because baby, it doesn't.. You can be replaced in the blink of a f*ckin' eye.

As can he "baby"...as can he! I don't send sexual messages to others and I don't expect my mate to either. Your argument about monogamy is irrelevant to this post.

ok, well we now know he comes from either UK or down under...

LoP Guest  Wrote:

LoP Guest  Wrote:

How is it over the top? When you see your partner telling other women how hot and attractive they are? It pisses me off to no end. If you accept that in a partner fine, but I don't.

Ahh so a man is not supposed to recognize the beauty in other women, even though he has a mate? You do realize that the idea of being with one woman started only about 300 years ago right? Up until then it was an all out orgy up in here..

You really should stop thinking the world revolves around you, because baby, it doesn't.. You can be replaced in the blink of a f*ckin' eye.

As can he "baby"...as can he! I don't send sexual messages to others and I don't expect my mate to either. Your argument about monogamy is irrelevant to this post.

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LoP Guest  Wrote:

As can he "baby"...as can he! I don't send sexual messages to others and I don't expect my mate to either. Your argument about monogamy is irrelevant to this post.

ok, well we now know he comes from either UK or down under...

Incorrect - Canadian boy.

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Of course I've discussed it with him. And he says he's finished with such sites....clearly not the case.
I am not a controlling person, I do not "check out his computer" but I do expect honesty and loyalty at all times. I appreciate those of you who answered maturely. Perhaps he'll read this and wake up!

Why do you have a problem with sites such as this? Because honestly if you came on here and said that he has an addiction to the site, and it's a problem. That would have been a totally different situation

But you didn't. Your issue was him flirting. And flirting as a guest???

That is absolutely, totally over the top control!

And you don't even seem to realize it.

Just curious... How old are you and your boyfriend?

How is it over the top? When you see your partner telling other women how hot and attractive they are? It pisses me off to no end. If you accept that in a partner fine, but I don't.

LoP Guest  Wrote:

LoP Guest  Wrote:

Ahh so a man is not supposed to recognize the beauty in other women, even though he has a mate? You do realize that the idea of being with one woman started only about 300 years ago right? Up until then it was an all out orgy up in here..

You really should stop thinking the world revolves around you, because baby, it doesn't.. You can be replaced in the blink of a f*ckin' eye.

As can he "baby"...as can he! I don't send sexual messages to others and I don't expect my mate to either. Your argument about monogamy is irrelevant to this post.

I am pretty sure he really doesn't give a shit of you leave or not.. You sound like a prude... A high maintenance, materialistic b*tch..

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Flountastic  Wrote:

Why do you have a problem with sites such as this? Because honestly if you came on here and said that he has an addiction to the site, and it's a problem. That would have been a totally different situation

But you didn't. Your issue was him flirting. And flirting as a guest???

That is absolutely, totally over the top control!

And you don't even seem to realize it.

Just curious... How old are you and your boyfriend?

How is it over the top? When you see your partner telling other women how hot and attractive they are? It pisses me off to no end. If you accept that in a partner fine, but I don't.

There is a difference in my husband standing next to me telling some chick/stranger to her face, that she is hot. In that case, it's not that I don't trust him, it is just disrespecting me, in her eyes.

Sitting at home watching tv, and him saying damn she's hot. Not a problem, likely I would say. Yeh she IS hot!

Telling some chick online, in completely anonymous mode, that she is hot, would be no different! He's not disrespecting me, Hell even the chick he is talking to doesn't know who HE is, much less that he's got a woman. It accomplishes nothing for him, as far as trying to butter her up, for some almost impossible hook up. So the only thing it accomplishes is.... Him being totally himself, and not checking his responses, trying to be cute or funny, or trying to boost the self esteem of the chick. None of which are bad things.

If you can't see that, then you really might need to do some self reflection.

Oh, and you never answers the age question

Flountastic  Wrote:

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How is it over the top? When you see your partner telling other women how hot and attractive they are? It pisses me off to no end. If you accept that in a partner fine, but I don't.

There is a difference in my husband standing next to me telling some chick/stranger to her face, that she is hot. In that case, it's not that I don't trust him, it is just disrespecting me, in her eyes.

Sitting at home watching tv, and him saying damn she's hot. Not a problem, likely I would say. Yeh she IS hot!

Telling some chick online, in completely anonymous mode, that she is hot, would be no different! He's not disrespecting me, Hell even the chick he is talking to doesn't know who HE is, much less that he's got a woman. It accomplishes nothing for him, as far as trying to butter her up, for some almost impossible hook up. So the only thing it accomplishes is.... Him being totally himself, and not checking his responses, trying to be cute or funny, or trying to boost the self esteem of the chick. None of which are bad things.

If you can't see that, then you really might need to do some self reflection.

Oh, and you never answers the age question

ANd I'm not going to answer the age question - I can tell you we are both grown adults. Again, what you find acceptable may not suit me or my needs. Doesn't mean I am wrong or you are right - just people have different standards for themselves.

Hi OP. I do not know if you are real or not......no offense Just paranoia on my part lol. If you are real,this jerk is not worth it. Who wants to be treated like that? Not trying to sound cold. Just know that all guys are not like that and you have to find the right one for you. I know, you love him etc etc. I know the stuff he is doing rips your heart out. And liike another poster kind of said, why be with someone if trust is a problem? Hang in there and I hope you guys work it out. And if is this is just another psychological tripping thread, have fun adding my response to your paperwork. I know there is a file on me somewhere........probably. Paranoia the destroyer lol

if you kept your mouth and hands busier with something more productive he wouldnt have to entertain himself elsewhere would he?!


(d1c45 dont suck themselves hunny-pitter patter....)

Flountastic  Wrote:

LoP Guest  Wrote:

How is it over the top? When you see your partner telling other women how hot and attractive they are? It pisses me off to no end. If you accept that in a partner fine, but I don't.

There is a difference in my husband standing next to me telling some chick/stranger to her face, that she is hot. In that case, it's not that I don't trust him, it is just disrespecting me, in her eyes.

Sitting at home watching tv, and him saying damn she's hot. Not a problem, likely I would say. Yeh she IS hot!

Telling some chick online, in completely anonymous mode, that she is hot, would be no different! He's not disrespecting me, Hell even the chick he is talking to doesn't know who HE is, much less that he's got a woman. It accomplishes nothing for him, as far as trying to butter her up, for some almost impossible hook up. So the only thing it accomplishes is.... Him being totally himself, and not checking his responses, trying to be cute or funny, or trying to boost the self esteem of the chick. None of which are bad things.

If you can't see that, then you really might need to do some self reflection.

Oh, and you never answers the age question

ANd I'm not going to answer the age question - I can tell you we are both grown adults. Again, what you find acceptable may not suit me or my needs. Doesn't mean I am wrong or you are right - just people have different standards for themselves.