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Why do I always get depressed after Christmas is over?
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12-30-2012 05:29 AM

 



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I'm a 35 year old, grown man.. but you would think I was a 9 year old.

Every year.. I love Christmas..the lights, the music.. baking.. the Old movies and just the

Christmas in the air. The anticipation of knowing my entire family will be coming together for the ONE night a year..unless a funeral or something else happens.

Then after Christmas day.. even with the tree still up.. the lights, and some of the movies still on tv.. It just doesn't feel the same.

It's an empty, eerie feeling, like a loved one just died. It's never been about the gifts for me.. I just love the time of year and the SNOW.. but even the snow doesn't feel the same after the 25th.

Anyone else ever get this?? or any idea why it is?
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12-30-2012 05:33 AM

 



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RE: Why do I always get depressed after Christmas is over?
Because you know that you have to spend the next year paying for the crap you bought for christmas... chuckle
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12-30-2012 05:34 AM

 



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RE: Why do I always get depressed after Christmas is over?
Because you finally realize you just spent the last 3 months playing into a capitalistic scam to boost the economy for the end of the fourth quarter and blew what money you had to make others happy. Then in January you realize you are broke and start the whole cycle over for another year.
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Because you've been brainwashed by organized religion and capitalism to have these great expectations. Try to wake up and grow up.
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RE: Why do I always get depressed after Christmas is over?
sobriety
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RE: Why do I always get depressed after Christmas is over?
I think we crave that closeness with our family and friends. Sadly they can only fake it for a day. Then reality comes back and everyone goes back to their normal mode.
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chasing_the_light
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RE: Why do I always get depressed after Christmas is over?
LoP Guest  Wrote: (12-30-2012 05:29 AM)
I'm a 35 year old, grown man.. but you would think I was a 9 year old.

Every year.. I love Christmas..the lights, the music.. baking.. the Old movies and just the

Christmas in the air. The anticipation of knowing my entire family will be coming together for the ONE night a year..unless a funeral or something else happens.

Then after Christmas day.. even with the tree still up.. the lights, and some of the movies still on tv.. It just doesn't feel the same.

It's an empty, eerie feeling, like a loved one just died. It's never been about the gifts for me.. I just love the time of year and the SNOW.. but even the snow doesn't feel the same after the 25th.

Anyone else ever get this?? or any idea why it is?

"The higher your Christmas, the more exciting, chaotic and tumultuous, the more likely you’ll be tumbling down just as far. Why? According to psychoneuroimmunologist (big word meaning the effect of brain and emotions on health, i.e., immunology), Paul Pearsall, Ph.D., our smart bodies want to establish equilibrium. Picture a graph on a midline. The midline is calm, routine. We can get very happy and go up; or very unhappy and go down. Therefore, if our emotions go way up, there will come a time when our inner wisdom brings us down low, so we settle back into that middle space.

Does this mean if you have a terrible grief or depression, you can expect to be that happy at some time in the future? I’ve seen it happen. It’s a tenet of Emotional Intelligence that if you don’t fully experience one emotion, you stuff down ALL emotions. In other words, if you face grief and go through it, not around it, you will carve out a space to be filled with happiness. If you don’t, you shut down, and become numb, in which case you don’t feel the bad, but you also don’t feel the good, and greatly limit your experience of life.

So, if you’re having a “down” period now what do you do? First of all, accept it. You can last it out. To speed it on its way:

1. Get active. Exercise an extra hour. It creates physical energy, it clears the mind, and flushes out toxic emotions. Do it especially if you don’t feel like it.

2. If you’re an introvert you may prefer meditation, yoga or Tai Chi.

3. Clean your house from top to bottom, doing the physical work yourself. Do it like a ritual, that is, with meaning. This is to get rid of the yuch, and make room for the sunshine. This is a tradition in many cultures at the New Year for a reason – because of what we’re all going through right now! Throw stuff out, sweep toward the doors, vacuum then take the bag out and dump it in the garbage, wash the furniture with something like Murphy’s soap.

4. Accept quiet times and go with the flow. Curl up by the fire and read good books. Coddle yourself with extra long baths with special lotions. Get your nails done. Get massages. Fix yourself a warm breakfast. It’s kind of a hibernating time anyway.

5. Jumpstart your thinking brain. Start a new course. If you’re an extravert, go to community ed classes. If you’re an introvert, enjoy yourself on the internet with distance learning courses and take teleclasses.

6. Start a new intellectual project at work and at home. Start a new physical project at home - build a greenhouse, paint the spare bedroom.

7. Start anything new – new health club, new piano lessons, coaching, fencing lessons, new hairstyle, new friendship, new career.

8. If you live in an area where this is high allergy-time (such as Texas), make adjustments to your diet, because it’s cumulative - pollen PLUS diet PLUS dust and mold inside your house. Clean your air ducts.

9. Laugh. One simple exercise is to put a pencil in your teeth crosswise. This makes the muscles of your face into a smile, and this helps our bodies. It gives us the same great relief a good laugh does.

10. Don’t fight it. There is no need to appear “Miss Congenialty” when you aren’t feeling that way. It’s okay to be in a quiet place.

Also, because this is the peak of SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), get more sunshine. Exercise outside. Take a Caribbean cruise. When the sun crosses the bed in the spare bedroom, go lie down and soak up the rays.

Change is the only thing that stays constant, so know that your mood will eventually find its place. If you are seriously depressed, check with your personal healthcare professional."

from: http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Dunn144.html

It is totally normal to feel the way you do. You will get over it too.

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Haven't given or received presents for years, love it! I love the food and seeing friends and family - but I'm happy when it's over too because the days are getting longer and we're on our way back to spring. Summer is never long enough for me. Once we're into January, in a few weeks it'll be nice again! Yippee!

Our circle of people stopped exchanging gifts years ago, it's made for much happier times for all of us. We all have enough "stuff" (for those with kids, of course, kids still get things) but for the adults, we enjoy making the special meals and sharing time....that makes it way more fun and much less stressful than fighting the mall battles. I don't do "retail" from the beginning of December until well into January, I simply don't buy into it. Am glad my friends feel the same way.......

It isn't that I don't enjoy Christmas, I really do. Things just don't mean much to me.....I enjoy the ambience!
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I am exactly the same way- As soon as the 26th hits I am suddenly in some kind of lull. I don't feel like doing anything- I do not even look forward to the New Year most years. I too love Christmas, the food, the cooking, movies, the lights, weather, music and all the coziness and tradition that go along with it. In my home we rarely have big get togethers and the only real gift giving that goes on is for my 6 year old son, we give to charity and overall feel an extra need to want to help the less fortunate. Christmas is not commercial to me at all, I do not ask for nor do I receive expensive gifts. We usually exchange homemade foods and crafts. Anyway, I feel for you and I totally get it. My post Christmas depression usually lasts about 2 weeks. Good luck with yours![/font]
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Jenbo  Wrote: (12-31-2012 04:13 PM)
I am exactly the same way- As soon as the 26th hits I am suddenly in some kind of lull. I don't feel like doing anything- I do not even look forward to the New Year most years. I too love Christmas, the food, the cooking, movies, the lights, weather, music and all the coziness and tradition that go along with it. In my home we rarely have big get togethers and the only real gift giving that goes on is for my 6 year old son, we give to charity and overall feel an extra need to want to help the less fortunate. Christmas is not commercial to me at all, I do not ask for nor do I receive expensive gifts. We usually exchange homemade foods and crafts. Anyway, I feel for you and I totally get it. My post Christmas depression usually lasts about 2 weeks. Good luck with yours![/font]

Hey guys, I have an idea to make sure this does not happen next Christmas. January is always such a letdown, let's change it. Make plans now to do something special, something you real really enjoy, or set aside money to buy yourself something you really like ... every Monday of each week in January. Buy or do one thing that really makes you happy once a week. It will give you something to look forward to,, to get you through this letdown. You have a whole year to save for it or plan for it. Think hard and then make yourself a note on your computer listing what you will do, or buy each Monday of January after next Christmas! Maybe it could be to do something for someone each Monday if that is what makes you happy. The point is to plan it now and be ready. This could be the last post Christmas depression that you ever feel if you plan it out now. Good luck and hugs to you all!

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