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what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
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what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
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Or emotionally abusive people?
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beermug RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
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RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
Ignore the mean , spiteful people. If possible, get far away from the emotionally abusive ones. Then again, get away from all of them.

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RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
My boss is mean at times, also.
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RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
Tell them that you love them..
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banana RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
LoP Guest  Wrote: (08-23-2012 02:15 PM)
Or emotionally abusive people?

Like another poster suggested, ignore them if you can. its hard if you have to work with these types, though.

When I find myself in similar situations, I just block the negative energy and focus on the positives people/things in my life. And when I feel like someone has wrong me emotionally or with unkind words, I pray for them - sounds cliche, but it really works and I don't give back the negative emotions, there is already enough of that floating around the universe.

You can also try to talk to whoever is causing you the strife, but usually people like this don't want a solution, they are acting out and being that way towards you because they are hurting inside (although they will never admit that), and it is my experience that miserable people want everyone else around them miserable.

Truly content, peaceful people want everyone around them to have the same joy and you will know those types of people because of how they talk about others (even if they don't like them). Whenever I hear someone talking really bad about someone else, its says more about the speaker, and usually that person is emotionally unstable and may also have some other more serious issues wrt personality.

People are easy to figure out. How quickly someone is willing to resolve an issue tells you their emotional maturity level.

I've always tell my close girlfriends who are divorced and dating to watch out for men who speak badly of their exes... big red flag. And the same goes for men, never date someone seriously who speaks terribly or makes up rumors about an ex... it takes two to tango and break up - NO ONE person is ever at fault.

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RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
oh and OP, I find that dealing with mean, spiteful people happens just as much online in forums and places like facebook just as much as it does in real life. You just have to be careful not to engage or feed these types of people. Tearing someone apart on the internet has got to be the lowest, most neanderthal form of any interaction - yet that is what you see the most. I'll bet most of these internet armchair monkeys that talk shit online couldn't take a verbally beating to their face with a dose of their own reality.

hang in there- grow a thicker skin and learn to spin their emotions back at themCheer
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banana RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
spɹɐʍoɔ snoɯʎuouɐ  Wrote: (08-23-2012 02:40 PM)
Tell them that you love them..

chucklechucklechuckle

that drives them crazy... I do it all the time.
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RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
Give them gifts. Thousands of roofing nails in their drive way is an excellent gift. Potatoes shoved in the exhaust pipe of their car is another fine gift.

Encourage kids in their area to leave them the old classic bag of burning dog shit on the front porch.

Never show fear to that type and when they screw you over you must screw back in spades. Make them fear you.
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RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
LoP Guest  Wrote: (08-23-2012 02:15 PM)
Or emotionally abusive people?

Best way?

Kick their ass and keep the teeth you knock out.

If you mean "constructive"...there is no real way to deal with them in a positive manner. Sociopaths always fear for their personal safety so in order to "mold their behavior" they have to fear you. If they don't fear you, they'll keep trying to control you.

This doesn't apply to psychopaths though. The best way to deal with psychopaths when you're not a psychopath is to steer clear of them. If you are a psychopath the best way to deal with psychopaths is to make yourself the bigger threat.

None of this is constructive but you have to realize that your type of logic and reasoning doesn't really apply to people that think a different way. If this is a relationship situation you should just walk away.
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banana RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
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Give them gifts. Thousands of roofing nails in their drive way is an excellent gift. Potatoes shoved in the exhaust pipe of their car is another fine gift.

Encourage kids on their area to leave them the old classic bag of burning dog shit on the front porch.

Never show fear to that type and when they screw you over you must screw back in spades. Make them fear you.

chuckle

and make them think you are crazy. if you exhibit some crazy behavior people will leave you alone.

The art of acting crazy is a lost art, no one knows how anymore. Don't get angry, don't get fearful, just make them think you are not okay. Its the only time I think its okay to lie, if it means getting someone off your back who is annoying and mean. Cheer

but the only place this won't work is in the workplace, you need to keep your shit together and do your job, if you don't like boss, you have to move on or suck it up.Heartflowers
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RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
Use both barrels.
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RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
daisy  Wrote: (08-23-2012 03:05 PM)
barbsat  Wrote: (08-23-2012 02:58 PM)
Give them gifts. Thousands of roofing nails in their drive way is an excellent gift. Potatoes shoved in the exhaust pipe of their car is another fine gift.

Encourage kids on their area to leave them the old classic bag of burning dog shit on the front porch.

Never show fear to that type and when they screw you over you must screw back in spades. Make them fear you.

chuckle

and make them think you are crazy. if you exhibit some crazy behavior people will leave you alone.

The art of acting crazy is a lost art, no one knows how anymore. Don't get angry, don't get fearful, just make them think you are not okay. Its the only time I think its okay to lie, if it means getting someone off your back who is annoying and mean. Cheer

but the only place this won't work is in the workplace, you need to keep your shit together and do your job, if you don't like boss, you have to move on or suck it up.Heartflowers

Lot's of interesting things could be done in the work place in the past. Now thanks to damn security cameras that can be hidden there isn't much to do anymore.

One company I worked for even had the company snitch dumpster diving to see if he could find out if any of us were using the dumpster to throw away our home trash.

So we threw out all the burned out florescent tubes and all the old razor knife blades we had and spread them into the trash well. That week when snitch boy went dumpster diving he came out a bit bloody.
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RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
I'm bad. I troll the shit out of them in real life. Especially snobs.

Then when they've been exposed, I'm really nice so they feel extra bad for being such a mean person.
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RE: what are the best ways to deal with mean, spiteful people?
LoP Guest  Wrote: (08-23-2012 03:04 PM)
LoP Guest  Wrote: (08-23-2012 02:15 PM)
Or emotionally abusive people?

Best way?

Kick their ass and keep the teeth you knock out.

If you mean "constructive"...there is no real way to deal with them in a positive manner. Sociopaths always fear for their personal safety so in order to "mold their behavior" they have to fear you. If they don't fear you, they'll keep trying to control you.

This doesn't apply to psychopaths though. The best way to deal with psychopaths when you're not a psychopath is to steer clear of them. If you are a psychopath the best way to deal with psychopaths is to make yourself the bigger threat.

None of this is constructive but you have to realize that your type of logic and reasoning doesn't really apply to people that think a different way. If this is a relationship situation you should just walk away.

I don't think violence is the key to solving anything.

I just say ignore anyone who dares to make you feel bad inside. We all deserve better than some of the pathetic excuses of humans that populate this universe and try to break the minds of the good people in the world.

Expect only the best for your mind and that's what you will attract. I sometimes think verbally/emotionally abusive people seek to abuse because they were also abused. The cycle just repeats, in order to break it, all violence and verbal abuse needs to stop.

Look at all the emotionally and/or physically abused children in the world... look at all the spousal abuse (both men and women are abusive in all sorts of ways), look at all the bullying... this behavior was observed and learned at a young age. You can't even come to a forum without some asshole saying something so completely abusive that you just sit there in awe that a complete stranger has so much hate inside they want to radiate it back into cyber space to harm another who they don't even know.

emotional, verbal, physical abuse are all forms of control.

You have to accept it for what it really is to escape it.Cheer
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